- “Things go awry when the individuality, the uniqueness of the child is denied in the service of meeting the needs of the parent.”
- “The miracle is balancing the enormous gratification of seeing ourselves in our beloved children and restraining ourselves.”
- “If we don’t begin to see them as who they are and not a deep reflection of ourselves we start to do them a disservice.”
- “We produce, not reproduce.“
Such a well-written, short piece on a parent’s need to both identify with yet gradually separate from their child. She parses out the nuances of “narcissism” so well, and what it means to have a child who may grow to be completely different from you.